BUILD YOUR HOME.

    

It just dropped into my spirit today, that this is the time to seriously lay strong foundations for our homes. Have I become a Marriage counselor. No, but is so urgent on God to raise godly families on the earth.
      The mistake of the fall of man, was the fall of a family, God found the family of Noah faithful, and from a nuclear family of seven people, God started the earth again, it was the days of multiple marriages on earth, maybe that is why we have  multiple marriages as at now too, God is looking for family that he can trust with his mandate during the tide of the last days, men and women that will raise mighty seeds on  earth, the only qualification of Abraham becoming the friend of God was because God trusted him to teach his family his ways, where are the homes that will raise a generation that will be a friend of God?
           Jesus came through the union of a home, as well as his forerunner. We are the forerunner generation, with the mandate to prepare the harvest of these last for the bridegroom. The solution of God to a perverse world is the home, no wonder the enemy is at a rage to see the homes of God’s children destroyed and shattered. In the last days, God is set to use Sons and daughters, this not an individual show, but a partnering work of two, two shall chase ten thousand, tied tail to tail, set on fire. This your greatest mandate, no matter how highly paid your job is. Arise, pray folr God’s leading and build!

                            OJEBODE AYOKUNMI

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CAN A PERSON BE A GAY AND STILL BE A CHRISTIAN.

       

Many “Christians” are now suggesting that those who embrace the homosexual lifestyle can live in harmony with biblical Christianity.
And more and more evangelicals with gay children are challenging the church to rethink its position. But can we rethink truth? Truth is not flexible when it comes to absolutes—it’s
solid and unyielding.
     
        When children struggle with sin, parents should point them to the light … to the truth. Truth liberates. Truth rebuilds. Truth restores. Truth heals. Truth transforms. Truth prevails—you
don’t change truth—truth changes you.

Are those who defend homosexuality, or who say nothing, truly loving the homosexual, or are they simply seeking to avoid conflict? For instance, if they are more worried about being liked than being truthful, do they really care for homosexuals more than those who are willing
to risk their reputation, and quite possibly their safety, in order to speak the truth in love? The answer is obvious: Authentic Christians love
the truth and others to the degree that they are willing to risk the consequences of confrontation in order to help others. This is genuine love, not hatred.

Re-frame The Question: Can a person who struggles with same-sex attraction be a Christian?

Yes, in the same way that a person who struggles with alcoholism or lust can be a Christian. Struggling with sin is much different than a lifestyle of sin; even Jesus was tempted with sin but He did not give in (cf. Heb. 4:15). If we are repentant and growing in the knowledge of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ
—if He truly is our Savior, we will turn from sin, not embrace it. We will repent rather than excuse our actions.

Once a person believes and repents, wrong desires sometimes vanish. Praise God for that, but that’s not always the case. For example, many Christians who have overcome alcoholism or pornography still struggle … it’s still a battle. They are one drink or one click away from bondage. The same holds true for
those with same-sex attraction.

Would we say, “I believe that those who embrace pornography can live in harmony with biblical Christianity”? Or, “I believe that those who embrace adultery or fornication can live in
harmony with biblical Christianity”? Of course not. Unfortunately, the battle cry is often focused on “individual rights,” rather than obedience to God’s Word.

Ironically, those who are voicing God’s truth are often categorized as irrational, judgmental, bigoted and intolerant. But how can we warn if
we won’t confront, correct if we won’t
challenge, and contend if we won’t question? We must speak the truth in love … the Bible is crystal clear on sexual sin, including homosexuality.

Jesus would speak out against sin, but His love and mercy also reached out to those who regretted and hated their condition. Repentance is the key. We should have compassion for
those who struggle with same-sex attraction because we all struggle with sin, but at the same time, we should not condone or excuse this type of sin any more than we condone or excuse any other sin.

In Acts 20:31, the apostle Paul spoke boldly as reflected in his statement, “Therefore watch, and remember that for three years I did not cease to warn everyone night and day with tears.” Was he wrong, judgmental or intolerant? No, he was speaking the truth in love.
     
Jesus also perfectly balanced grace and mercy with confrontation and correction. He wanted people to know the truth even if it offended.
Oswald Chambers said, “The words of the Lord hurt and offend until there is nothing left to hurt and offend.”

The Bible was written so that people would know the truth—the truth about God, creation, sin, and redemption. We are not called to make truth tolerable, but to make it clear.

Here’s the Truth:

In addition to many Old and New Testament examples, 1 Corinthians 6:9 offers incredible insight. Paul says, “Don’t fool yourselves,” and adds that those who “do wrong” will not inherit
the kingdom of God. Those who indulge in illicit sexual sin, or alcoholism, or adultery, or homosexuality, and so on will be separated from God forever. This topic should not be reconstructed to fit a particular ideology; it has grave consequences.

The following analogy may help better
understand this truth: A pig and a lamb both find their way to the mud. The mud represents the sin (the wrong) that we all fall into. The pig wallows in and enjoys the mud and may even lead others in, whereas the lamb hates its condition and cries out. That’s the difference— those who are unrepentant and indulge in sexual sin are outside of God’s will … outside
of salvation. This applies to all sexual sin outside of marriage between a man and a woman.

Jesus speaks out against those who
continually return and enjoy wallowing in sin, but His love and mercy reaches out to those who regret and hate their condition. A person cannot embrace the homosexual lifestyle and be a follower of Christ. They can attend church, participate in worship, and read the Bible, yet, be outside of God’s will.

Homosexuals who remain monogamous are also outside of God’s will because the entire relationship is wrong … the union of two men or two women is not God’s plan. Its not about being true to one partner; it’s about being true to God … “what God has joined together, let
not man separate” (Mark 10:9).

Be encouraged: “The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance” (2 Pet. 3:9, NIV). Repent
and turn to Him today.

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BEAUTIFUL BUT NOT MARRIAGEABLE

“If your character today has the potential of sending a man to the roof top in search of fresh air rather than putting up with you in the same room,
don’t rejoice yet over an engagement ring, you are not marriageable”.
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“BEAUTIFUL”, BUT NOT MARRIAGEABLE!
Everyone had expected Lizzy to have settled down with the man of her dream by now but sad to say, she lost her relationship again. This was her 4th broken engagement within 2 years. The guys who showed up around her only endured for a while, and never attempted to move further.
The closest that even went as far as starting marital procedures towards her only got fed up with her often display of a very nasty attitude. Lizzy was extremely beautiful. Everybody was aware of this. She had an angelic stature, powerfully configured shape, soft-looking eyes and a better height advantage. To complement her pretty looks, God had specially endowed her with this sonorous voice that could sing to any pitch. She was no doubt the top lead vocalist in the REDEMPTION VOICES mass choir (not original name used) and the best preference at performing technical songs. Even the angels in heaven could confess that Lizzy had what it takes to catapult worshippers to
Heaven in worship. Many people got attracted to her on that premise
only to be shocked by her nasty display of childish, unpolished and unwillingness-to-grow character.
Why corrupt a beautiful outside with an untidy inside? Why plague yourself with closed doors in the name of pride? Outward beauty is deceptive when the fruits of a good character are in doubt. You are not yet beautiful until your simple character can keep a man in a home. A dirty heart will ultimately corrupt a beautiful face. A dirty heart will embarrass a beautiful body shape. A smelling character will contaminate a costly manicure. Will he still ask you out if he had yet another chance? His response will either question or recommend your current and true beauty level. If he is not drawn to your heart and character then, your outward beauty can’t keep him for long. “If your character today has the potential of sending a man to the roof top in search of fresh air rather than putting up with you in the same room, don’t rejoice yet over an engagement ring, you are not marriageable”.
When you deliberately refuse to fix new virtues than you fix nails, you are reducing in beauty than you know.
Ladies, don’t carry an empty head into a relationship. If all that is visible to the guy is your Brazilian hair, I can assure you that you are not yet an asset for marriage. He’ll soon get tired of you.. Prefer to carry wisdom than wear a new hair. Head without content is overload. Don’t get bored developing yourself. Solid reading will not kill you. You’ll only be adding true values to yourself if you faint not. Let your values outgrow your weaknesses and you’ll be his queen for life.
Keep your mouth and you can keep the relationship. Keep your mouth and you can keep the man. If you must talk, let’s see wisdom in your words. If you must talk, communicate your good virtues . If your hope of feeding the man is on Crunches and Tantalizers, kindly repent now else, hand over his engagement ring until you’ve learnt how to cook.
It is easier for God to accept you the way you are than for a man to endure through an unpleasant attitude for long but then, you can’t be married to
God in the body but to a man. GOD can put up with you and for long but does a man have that capacity? What virtues do you really want to pass on to your children? If you can’t answer this, kindly postpone the wedding till you are ready. Marriage is not for
children. No man can work on any woman that lacks mentality for growth.
                      Written by Godwin Kalu
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SO YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED?

Dear singles,
In order to avoid making mistakes and regrets, do not rush into marriage. Do not rush and get married because your mates are married. This is one of the biggest mistakes that many people are making. They are getting married because their mates are married. This is why many marriages
are crashing today and there are many divorces. Why are you in a hurry to get married? Will God give prizes to people that got married early? Or is early marriage compulsory? Or will you go to Heaven because you got married early? It is not how far but how well. It is better to get married late than
to get married early and divorce. People are taking marriage for granted this days; everybody is just getting married anyhow without any preparation or readiness. It shouldn’t be so. Get married when you are ready. Marry because you are ready and mature enough in mind. Do not marry because everybody is getting married. Do not get married because your parents are forcing you. Do not get married because your mates are married. If you rush in, you will rush out. Early marriage is good but divorce is very bad. Take your time to plan and
be fully prepared so that you will have a happy married life with your spouse without divorce, until death do you part.Remember that Wedding lasts for a day but Marriage lasts for a lifetime.
                                       Ernest Ubeku.

 

THE LADY AND THE SEX OFFER

Guys usually assume that girls who allow frequent “testing” are cheap. While they earnestly pursue the ones who are discrete about sex. They might say they prefer the cheap one, it’s just because she’s cheap, (in most cases it’s just a cover-up lie), they’ll continue to admire the discrete one even after several futile efforts at
getting her. If he threatens to leave you? Its not because he didn’t respect your principles, he’s just trying to twist your hand maybe you’ll let go – and allow him have his way. Don’t make yourself a willful victim just because you don’t want to loose him, he’ll ask for it over and over again until you loose your worth in his eyes.
So, let him go if he insist, at least you’ll have your dignity intact! Note this if you’re in courtship relationship: any normal young guy in a romantic relationship will/ could ask for sex, it’s normal to some extent – because sex is a major part of his daily thinking… but he can control it if you can avoid tempting him, e.g, visiting him at home or in a private place alone. It’s your fault if you visit him alone, at least, now you know you shouldn’t!
      Finally, note also that guys do talk about it, they’ll discuss you among their friends… even married men do, though with a little bit of respect when it’s their wife’s! If a guy can hold sex because of you, I.e, ‘cos you’re not ready, it means he’s very serious about you!
                               Fadunmo Abiodun

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JUST KISSING AND SQUEEZING

 

      Please, do imagine this and give me your opinion about it. There’s a man who has promised and vowed that he’ll never have sex with another woman apart from his wife. Meanwhile, he has been kissing lips
and squeezing, smooching, and sucking the boobs of another lady. He says, “I haven’t broken my vows, after all, I haven’t had sex yet. While you’re still imagining it, let me give you a
clue into my main point here. There are many young guys and ladies who have vowed or promised God one way or another they’ll keep their virginity till marriage. They’re currently in relationship with someone they really love and would wish to marry God willing, they want to keep both their relationship and the vow. Unfortunately, they keep insisting on ‘no sex’ – just kissing, smooching, squeezing and sucking of boobs and just a few other things like that –
without the real thing (sex). (This is true with a lot of ladies who vowed to keep their virginity and still engage in a serious/intimate relationship). Girls believes that once the Hymen can be kept intact without penetration, guys assume that once they’ve not gotten to the point of ejaculating inside, they’re still maintaining their virginity.
The above may seem to be too direct for some people, but it’s the means/trick through which many ladies have lost their virginity and dignity
untimely for ever, many whom were once steadfast in the service of the Lord, but has now gone back. They fell and couldn’t stand tall again.
A lot of young people kept rising and falling in this state, they’re in love with someone who already know sex or who assured them of only kissing,
touching, and probably a little bit of squeezing – without sex; unfortunately, such things does not
exist. Some of such victims (both male & female) have resigned to saying “It’s not possible to avoid
premarital sex”, that’s the message they’re now preaching to teenagers who are going to also become victims… because they themselves has fallen. God is now looking for remnants, not multitudes! Beloved, purity is good and honorable, even in this dispensation, your body is only for God and your would-be spouse (don’t be generous with it); it’s not for your boyfriend or girlfriend. 1 Corinthians
6:19-20. Some will say, intimate relationship without sex is possible once you can control yourself. I have no problem with self-control, but let me ask the honest guys here one question; is it possible not to
have erection when kissing or squeezing your girlfriend’s boobs?
In fact, I know from experience that beyond having erection, your pant might also be wet, yet you say you’ve not had sex. (Make no mistakes, so it’s for females too).

Date ‘only’ if you have to, don’t when it’s not necessary. Ask me when is it necessary? Finally, sex – for me, is any intimate act that can happen between two or more people, ranging from
kissing, body romance, cunnilingus, fellatio, squeezing and touching of sensitive body parts, which may or may not lead to intercourse -for
sexual gratification. If you feel this speaks of you but you still have
some doubts, then you be the judge in the case of that husband who says he hasn’t broken his vow, because he has only been kissing and squeezing. Be sincere with yourself enough to admit your error, and be wise!
                               Fadunmo Abiodun

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HOW NOT TO TREAT HER.

         I feel terrible whenever I see couples fight each other. Wives making missiles out of frying pans/ pistils and husbands exercising their boxing anointing on their wives. This is unfair. But how did it get to this point? Why marry someone when you are not ready to possess God’s gift of self-control and subject yourself to understanding? “The spirit of Love” in the right sense of it is a prayer point to keep desiring and not just a feeling.
No matter how much you would feel disappointed about your body, you won’t still throw yourself into the fire.
You don’t love when you box with fire in your head(anger), You are not given her a good treat when you beat her. I know you love yourself that much to understand that you are not perfect and deserve multiple chances to get better. Don’t try it again on your partner. Reserve your boxing skills till the next Olympic games. Thank you.

                                      KALU CAPTAIN

 

WHAT IS THE REAL ESSENCE OF MARRIAGE?

         Why do you want to get married? Different people have different reasons for going into marriage. Some do because of societal expectations. Some do because their mates are married. Some do because they have been lonely all their life and want a companion. Some do because they want someone they can call their own. Some do because they want someone who will help with their house chores, and cooking. Some do because they want children. Some do because, “it is better to marry than to burn.” Some do because they want someone who will save them from poverty and lack. Some do because they would like to be addressed as “Mr &Mrs.” The reasons go on and on.
       What is your own reason? If you get married for the wrong reason, it is likely you get married to the “wrong person” (wrong person, not because they are bad in themselves; but wrong person, because you both do not agree -remember that, two cannot walk together except they agree). Why do you want to get married? If you get this right, you will likely get married to the right person (Right person, not because they are “perfect” and will always “make you happy”, or because they are finished products; but right person, because you both agree, and can walk together.)
          What does it mean to agree; and agree on what, you may ask. Does it mean you will think the same way, have same preferences, share same hobbies, have no reason to disagree, like the same kinds of food, etc? No. God did not create us all the same. Even if He did, we did not all grow in the same environments… neither do we have same backgrounds. Even if we did, we have different personalities and temperaments. In other words, we are all different. I have not yet seen two people that are exactly the same.
Nevertheless, there are some core values that we must share and agree on, if we must walk together. I tell you, this has nothing to do with you being born again or not; just the same way anyone that has the key to a room opens it… whether they are born again or not. I have seen unbelievers who have been “happily” married for years and do not wish or plan to go their separate ways. You know why? Because they agree. They have mutual values they hold dear. They have common values they share. These
values may not be biblical, but truth is, these values hold them together.
Why do we get married? The Bible says, “Two are better than one.”
This tells me that despite our diversities and differences, two can walk together and yield better results when they agree. It tells me that despite our lack of uniformity, we can do much in unity. No matter how much you can achieve on your own, if
someone agrees with you, you will do ten times more; following the principle of “one chasing a thousand, and two chasing ten thousand.” Does that mean every and any two will yield the
ten thousand result? No. Only the two that walk together in agreement will.
It is better to walk alone and be assured of your one thousand result, than to walk with a “wrong person” and have no result. What kind of result do you want in life? What is your purpose? If you do not get this right before getting married, you may not get marriage right (Well, it depends on the kind of marriage you want).

           It takes a purpose-driven marriage to stand the test of time; the test of personality clashes; the test of different approaches to getting the
same results etc. And a purpose-driven marriage consists of two purpose-driven individuals. In other words, it takes two purpose-driven individuals to make a purpose-
driven marriage. With such, we cannot experience, or encounter “irreconcilliable differences”. That is why it is important to get it right from the beginning; because, if the foundation is faulty, the righteous will be helpless… except God intervenes.
What do you look for in a marriage partner? Just one thing. It determines everything else: Your ability to walk together. That is the essence of
marriage. If that factor is out of it, there is no point and no reason to get married. Two that are better than one, are two that can walk together.
Remember that, “Two cannot walk together except they agree.” Any two that agree, will walk together.
Now, what they agree on is unique to them. They can agree to serve God, love God, and fulfill their purpose together. They can agree to stick to
their marriage, make it work and enjoy it no matter what happens. Whatever, they must agree to walk
together. If you are a child of God and your priority in life is to fulfill God’s purpose for your life, God can help
you with that decision. Without Him, you don’t even know what to agree on. It all begins with Him. The Bible says, “Two are better than one”; it also
says “Two cannot walk together except they agree.” And this is my conclusion,Two people that are in agreement are better than one.” Amen. For you, your marriage is not about you; it is about God… same as your life. It has been a lengthy post. I hope I made some sense and i hope you got my point? May the Lord increase your understanding…
                       
                           Bimbola Tayo-Bamidele
                       

 

BEAM OF LOVE

                     Falling in Love.

Falling in love is a common phrase to the ear. In a week you hear the phrase at least once, or you think of it in your mind. It has become a common thing, which often surface in songs, in radio programs and in movies. However, it is so rare hearing the phrase “staying in love”. Falling in love sounds easy but staying in love comes with a responsibility.

     So what is this tingling feeling, we most times call, falling in love and the groaning thing called staying in love (permit me to put it like that). There is a story I read sometimes ago about a legendary Comedian called Jack Benny who was a shy young man. The first time he met Mary Livingstone he bowled at her beauty. He desperately wanted to build a relationship with her but he was nervous, so he decided to have a florist deliver one long-stemmed of rose to her office.

He did this for several days until she was finally able convinced the florist to tell her the name of the guy who kept sending her roses. The florist replied “well it’s a guy whose name is Jack Benny, and he would like to take you on a date with him. That marked the beginning of a wonderful relationship.
    On everyday of the courtship, Jack sent her one long-stemmed red rose then they got married. After the wedding Mary thought “well, I guess the red roses will stop now that we are married. To her surprise and joy, she got a stem of rose every single day of their married life!

     Then in December 1974, Jack Benny died. The very next day, the doorbell rang and Mary opened the door to find the familiar florist with the daily rose. Mary tearfully spoke of the passing of her husband and said,”So you can see there is no need for you to bring the roses anymore” but to her surprise the Florist said “Oh, I know, but before he died, Mr. Benny made arrangements with me to bring you one long stemmed red rose every day for the rest of your life”.

        Falling in Love is sweet. What thrills you to fall in love… physical attributes, finance, influence,beauty,ambition,character or talent of your would be Lover. What does it takes for the love to last? Do you ever consider your lover to be a snoring person, may be a little lazy or how do you pay the bills? The issue of love is not a quick matter or do you think the decision should be a quick one? Will a man want to build a house and not calculate the cost whether he has enough to finish it? Otherwise he lays the foundation and he is not able to finish it?

    There was a lady I was wooing sometime ago, she asked me “All these things you are doing to get me if I accept now won’t that be the end “? I took time to reflect on the question. Is this not the question in the heart of most gentleman or lady? Falling in love is a marathon not a sprint race.
                                               

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