TALKING TO TEENS ABOUT SEX

Many of us didn’t grow up in a romantic family. Sincerely, I never saw my parents kiss or show any expression of love or affection, they never said “I love you” to each other, let alone to the children – at least none that I can remember. It’s somehow
sad. I guess that’s why I lunched out so early looking for affection. Parents who don’t do these definitely will not give their children sex education. In my teenage days, it was as if it’s forbidden to talk about sex. Teenagers from this type of homes are too quick to try things out. At puberty, they want to experiment what they’ve seen on TV (you’ll remember Ramsey Noah and Genevieve), what they’ve read from
romantic story books, what they heard from friends, and most unfortunately what they saw their parents do behind closed doors, which is still very common with people who live in one room apartment together with their children of age 5 and
above.

What’s the point of investing your time in a guy when he’ll just hurt you in the end? You’re not likely going to find that perfect love in secondary
school. It’s just gonna end up with tears and a broken heart. You don’t want to be that drama girl who wondered what love is really like, and out of curiosity she fell in love with a boy in their school. One day, she went to visit him at his friend’s place, when he asked for sex, she said; ‘no I am
not ready for sex’, but he took her virginity by force.
           Most women got disvirgined by boys who only need sex from innocent and vulnerable girls who are looking for love and affection. Note that at
adolescent, boys are hungry for sex (sexual gratification) because of their normal naturally high libido, while girls seek for love and care, which if they can’t get from their parents, boys will pretend to have it. Research said 61% of teens at 18 years old have had sex.
Brethren, most of the girls who becomes victims of rape at this stage remain heart broken, some of them becomes wayward, others will hardly love or trust any man again even their own husband at times, this is apart from it’s many spiritual implications. Remember the story of Dinah in Genesis 34:1-31.

This is not God’s plan for our female teenagers.
You can help somebody today by spreading/ sharing this message; who knows, it might help a teenager who’s planning to try out something romantic with her boyfriend soon, or a parent who needs to pay attention to his/her love life as it can affect their children forever. You’re either a parent,
sister, brother, uncle, aunt, friend, etc of someone in need of this message!
It’s better for them to see us kissing than arguing! Thanks for your time.
Your opinion please!
Fadunmo Abiodun

                             

 

JUST KISSING AND SQUEEZING

 

      Please, do imagine this and give me your opinion about it. There’s a man who has promised and vowed that he’ll never have sex with another woman apart from his wife. Meanwhile, he has been kissing lips
and squeezing, smooching, and sucking the boobs of another lady. He says, “I haven’t broken my vows, after all, I haven’t had sex yet. While you’re still imagining it, let me give you a
clue into my main point here. There are many young guys and ladies who have vowed or promised God one way or another they’ll keep their virginity till marriage. They’re currently in relationship with someone they really love and would wish to marry God willing, they want to keep both their relationship and the vow. Unfortunately, they keep insisting on ‘no sex’ – just kissing, smooching, squeezing and sucking of boobs and just a few other things like that –
without the real thing (sex). (This is true with a lot of ladies who vowed to keep their virginity and still engage in a serious/intimate relationship). Girls believes that once the Hymen can be kept intact without penetration, guys assume that once they’ve not gotten to the point of ejaculating inside, they’re still maintaining their virginity.
The above may seem to be too direct for some people, but it’s the means/trick through which many ladies have lost their virginity and dignity
untimely for ever, many whom were once steadfast in the service of the Lord, but has now gone back. They fell and couldn’t stand tall again.
A lot of young people kept rising and falling in this state, they’re in love with someone who already know sex or who assured them of only kissing,
touching, and probably a little bit of squeezing – without sex; unfortunately, such things does not
exist. Some of such victims (both male & female) have resigned to saying “It’s not possible to avoid
premarital sex”, that’s the message they’re now preaching to teenagers who are going to also become victims… because they themselves has fallen. God is now looking for remnants, not multitudes! Beloved, purity is good and honorable, even in this dispensation, your body is only for God and your would-be spouse (don’t be generous with it); it’s not for your boyfriend or girlfriend. 1 Corinthians
6:19-20. Some will say, intimate relationship without sex is possible once you can control yourself. I have no problem with self-control, but let me ask the honest guys here one question; is it possible not to
have erection when kissing or squeezing your girlfriend’s boobs?
In fact, I know from experience that beyond having erection, your pant might also be wet, yet you say you’ve not had sex. (Make no mistakes, so it’s for females too).

Date ‘only’ if you have to, don’t when it’s not necessary. Ask me when is it necessary? Finally, sex – for me, is any intimate act that can happen between two or more people, ranging from
kissing, body romance, cunnilingus, fellatio, squeezing and touching of sensitive body parts, which may or may not lead to intercourse -for
sexual gratification. If you feel this speaks of you but you still have
some doubts, then you be the judge in the case of that husband who says he hasn’t broken his vow, because he has only been kissing and squeezing. Be sincere with yourself enough to admit your error, and be wise!
                               Fadunmo Abiodun

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